Mother’s Day weekend I attended a Mother’s Day Brunch hosted by Dr. Myla. At this brunch, the question “What does self-care mean for you?” When this question was asked a lot of different answers were said. A lot were similar, some were things I would never think of. The most important thing that was agreed on is that Self-Care is about protecting YOU. By you, I mean your mental, spirit, health, time, energy. anything that could pertain to your livelihood and life.
Now the textbook version of Self-Care is as followed
the practice of taking action to preserve or improve one’s own health.
the practice of taking an active role in protecting one’s own well-being and happiness, in particular during periods of stress.
Looking at both versions one thing stands out protecting your health and well-being. Often times I believe we get so caught up in our lives that we don’t take account that we need to take care of ourselves too. Rather we get caught up in work, family, bills, anything thing that causes you stress. All those factors play a huge role in our well-being and our mental state. I believe we often suppress a lot of stress until we can’t handle it anymore, which isn’t healthy. Depression has increased tremendously and I believe it’s because we don’t stop to put ourselves first.
I know for a fact I didn’t. I was too business taking care of everyone around me, worrying about how my books did on the charts, worrying about my financial situation, family issues, and other things that I never took the step back to say “Taylor pause and get you right.” I went through a rough patch, followed by a few months when I felt like I had failed everything I was trying to do. Eventually, I had to block all the negative out of my life in order to get my mental right. The first thing I did was pray and started getting closer to God. I asked him to remove people and guide me to what makes me happy. Next, I started distancing myself from certain family members that caused me more harm than good. Next, I started a vision board, short and long term, to figure out what I wanted in life. I was so busy everyone else in life that I didn’t even take the time to figure out what I wanted out of mine. Last I took time for me, I would shut the outside world out, put my phone on DND, and lay in bed and read for hours or even days. Those four factors alone had helped me get to a much BETTER mental space.
So let’s get back to the reason for this entry “Self Care”. Having a strong support system, positive energy and people around you are two things I believe are very important when it comes to Self Care. Negative people bring negative energy. That energy will eventually take you down and drain you. Find people in your life wanting the same thing as you or who want better for you. Find people who aren’t always taking from you but also adding to you. Relationships are a two-way streak if your scale is one-sided then it’s time to make changes.
I found an article that indicated 10 ways to practice self care, hopefully some of them help you:
1- Self care means knowing who you are and your limits.
2- Self care means getting the sleep you need and knowing how to rest.
3- Self care means making sure that you’re well fed.
4 –Self care means finding a way to decompress throughout your day.
5- Self care means giving some thought to changing a difficult work situation.
6- Self care means taking time to get to know you better.
7- Self care means identifying what you enjoy doing and what’s fun for you and make a serious effort to integrate it into your day
8- Self care means knowing how to debrief from a day’s work.
9- Self care means feeding your spiritual self.
10- And finally, self care means taking time to love yourself
For deeper into this tips visit the website: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/skinny-revisited/201805/self-care-101
To sum everything up, take some time away from your day for you. Rather it’s spending the day in bed with junk food away from everyone, taking an hour long car ride alone, going to see a movie, walking through the park, going on a job, whatever. Just out you FIRST, make time for YOU. Make sure YOU are good before you make sure everyone else surrounding you are good. Take time to get to know YOU better. I’m still getting the hang of this Self Care thing but my mental state has been much better since I been on the journey.
I hope you reading take what I say and apply it to your everyday lives. Feel free to leave a comment, I love to hear your feedback!